I'm 13, But I'm Still Not Allowed To Shower Alone – Is This Normal?

📑 Table of Contents ▾

 

13-Year-Old’s Struggle: When Will I Be Allowed My Privacy?

I know this might sound silly to some, but it’s my real life.
I’m 13. I go to school, do my homework, scroll TikTok, dream about the future...
But there's one thing I can't do yet—shower alone.
Yes, you read that right.

And I can’t help but wonder:
Is this normal, or am I the only one?

---

Why Don’t Some Parents Allow Privacy at 13?

My dad says it’s about safety.
He tells me he’s just trying to protect me.
But sometimes, it feels like I’m trapped in a little kid’s world…
even though my mind and heart are growing up fast.

I understand parents worry.
But at 13, shouldn’t I be learning independence?

How can I learn to trust myself if I’m not trusted at home?

---

How Does It Feel to Be Controlled This Way?

Honestly? Embarrassing. Frustrating.
Sometimes I pretend I’m okay with it.
But when I see my friends talk about how their parents knock before entering their room...
or how they get to decide when and how to shower...
I feel left out. Weird. Ashamed, even.

Every time I hear the bathroom door open while I’m inside,
my heart skips a beat.

Is it wrong to want just a little space—to feel like my body is mine?

---

What Can a Teen Do to Earn Trust and Freedom?

I’m not here to blame my dad. I know he loves me.
But maybe he doesn’t realize that love also means letting go—bit by bit.
Letting me try, fail, and grow.

So I’ve started small conversations.
Instead of yelling or crying, I sit down and explain how I feel.
Like, “Dad, I’m 13 now. I want to be trusted. Can we talk about boundaries?”
It’s not easy. But it’s a start.

Because if I don’t speak up, who will?

---

💬 Have you ever felt like your privacy was taken away—like you were growing up but no one noticed?

You’re not alone.
Your voice matters.
And maybe, just maybe, talking about it can be the first step toward change.

👉 Comment below if you think 13 is old enough to shower alone. Let’s talk.

​

Post View: Loading...