My Parents Say They Trust Me… But Still Read My Messages When I Sleep

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Is It Normal To Feel Ashamed About Teen Privacy?

Some nights, I wake up and feel like someone’s been in my room. My phone’s not where I left it. My screen is open to messages I didn’t read.
I’m only a 13-year-old. I know that. But does that mean I don’t deserve privacy?

Is it weird that I want to shower alone, or message my friends without worrying who’s watching?

My parents say they trust me. But then… why are they checking my phone when I’m asleep? That doesn’t feel like trust. It feels like doubt hiding behind love.

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What Should I Do If I Feel Trapped At Home?

It’s not like I’m doing anything wrong. I talk to friends from school. I play games. I look up stuff I’m curious about.
Still, I feel like I’m being watched all the time. Even when I sleep.

I’m scared to open up to anyone. What if my parents read this too? What if they see how I feel and say I’m just being dramatic?

But I know I'm not. I’ve read stories. Other teens feel the same. They also feel unheard, trapped, and a little broken.

What should I do when I want to grow up, but my world won’t let me?

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Why Does My Freedom Feel Like A Secret?

My friends can go to sleep with their phones untouched. They can shower alone, close their doors, and trust their parents won’t read through their private chats.
Me? I leave my phone under my pillow, but it’s gone when I wake up.

When I try to say something, it always turns into a “you’re too young” talk.
Too young for privacy? For space? For growing?

I'm a 13-year-old, not a baby. I’m not asking to sneak out. I just want to feel like I’m allowed to breathe, to be alone sometimes, to be me without being watched.

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It’s not that I don’t love my parents. I do.
But I wish they knew how it hurts to be told “we trust you,” while their actions whisper “we don’t.”

Sometimes I cry quietly. Not loud sobs. Just silent tears in the dark.
Because I feel ashamed for wanting what others seem to have so easily—teen privacy.

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💬 What Should I Do?

I want to talk to them. I want to tell them it makes me feel small, like I have to hide everything to keep anything. But the words get stuck.

Maybe they’re scared too. Maybe they think the world is dangerous and this is how they protect me.
But protecting someone doesn’t mean breaking their trust.

Can’t we talk about it? Can’t they ask me what I’m feeling instead of sneaking into it?

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Final Thoughts (Diary-style ending):

Sometimes I whisper to myself:
“You’re not wrong for wanting space. You’re not wrong for wanting to be trusted.”

I’m just a 13-year-old trying to figure things out. I don’t know everything. But I know what it feels like to be unheard.

Have you ever felt this way too?
Let’s talk about it. You’re not alone.

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